Partying with the Couple


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Photo courtesy of Braden Harris Photography

Bachelor and bachelorette parties are a great opportunity to show the couple some love before their big day! The format of these parties can run the gamut from a night out on the town, a daytime excursion, or a weekend away. When planning a bachelor or bachelorette party, it’s important to get input from the guest of honor as well as from the other bridesmaids or groomsmen, since traditionally the financial burden is split amongst the attendants. The guest list can absolutely include friends that are not invited to the wedding, one of the few pre-wedding events where that’s okay. Here are some key items to keep in mind while planning:

  • Transportation – How will you be getting around? If your plans include copious amounts of drinking, a vehicle with a sober driver (limo, party bus, Uber) or public transportation is a wonderful investment.
  • Timing – It’s ideal if the big night out can be held between a week and two months before the wedding. On the shorter side, that gives everyone time to recover before the wedding.  On the longer side, that stretches out travel time if your wedding party is scattered and/or the couple is planning a destination wedding.
  • Gifts – Gifts can be silly, themed, or registry-based, depending on your plans. Some people forego gifts entirely, but split the cost of the evening equally amongst the participants. Either way, it is appropriate to give guests a heads up on what is expected and how much of a donation to the evening is expected.
  • Guest list – Be sure that the guest of honor understands that matching the size of the guest list to the activities planned is key. If you’re doing a day of wine tasting and spa time for the girls, or a round of golf for the guys, there are a finite number of people that fit comfortably into those plans. If a large guest list is an absolute must, be sure to plan accordingly.


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